You aren’t the only one who is insecure

My name is Stephen Jones and I’m insecure.

You aren't the only one who is insecure

I wanted you to hear that because, if you are like me, you think you’re the only one. You think every one else is totally awesome (and they know it) and you’re, well you.

Tell me if any of these sound familiar…

When I’m checking out at the grocery store, I see your kids sitting quietly in the shopping cart reading books while mine scream for candy and I’m convinced you’re a better parent than me.

I see you post pictures on Facebook of you and your family hiking, kayaking, and sitting on the beach while I’m at home on the couch and I’m convinced you lead a more exciting life than me.

I overhear my friends talking about a lunch date that I wasn’t invited to and I’m convinced they must not really like me. It must have been something I said. What did I say? Oh, I shouldn’t have said that…that’s not what I meant!

I could go on and on…

The truth is we all feel insecure sometimes…even your boss…even your pastor…even that neighbor who you just know has it all together.

You know, I’ve noticed something interesting about insecurity starts with the letter “I.”

You see, I’m usually the most insecure when I’m completely focused on myself.

In every one of those (real life) examples, I’ve turned the focus of something about you towards me. It’s hard not to really.

I mean, the world tells you over and over that you find your security in what you see in the mirror.

That mirror, though, loves to torment. It loves to point out every imperfection and shout “that’s who you really are!”

But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Those imperfections are not who you are.

You see that security, that confidence we are so desperate for isn’t found in a mirror. It’s found on a cross.

It’s found on a cross where Jesus told us that we are worth everything to Him. A cross that reminds us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. A cross that reminds us that in Him our imperfections are made perfect.

I so infrequently remind myself of that.

But when I do, those insecurities melt away, and I remember that God intentionally chose me to be Kaylee and Colton’s dad. I change my focus to them and being the best father I can be in the moment.

I remember that Facebook is a SportsCenter-esque highlight reel. No one goes hiking every day. And no one posts pictures of themselves on the couch. Besides, didn’t I just post my own vacation pictures a couple of weeks ago?

I remember that lunch doesn’t define a friendship…that friends let you say something stupid and like you anyway.

I remember that I have the freedom in Christ to be me.

When you’re feeling insecure, know that you aren’t the only one. And remember that the One who has the only opinion that matters pursues you over everything else.

Now, that’s security.


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