I remember getting my eyes checked in the library of my elementary school when I was in the first grade.
The school nurse told me to look into this giant microscope-looking contraption and then she asked me which direction the ‘E’ was facing.
“What E,” I asked.
The rest is history.
I’ve been wearing glasses since I was six years old.
As you can imagine, a rambunctious little boy can be very hard on a pair of glasses.
I’ve broken them more times than I can count. I’ve stepped on them, sat on them, had them hit by a baseball, knocked off of my noggin by a basketball…and on and on and on.
Oh, and they were always dirty…sticky, fingerprint laden dirty…how on earth could anyone see out of these things dirty.
“Mama, will you clean my glasses?“
I don’t know how many times I uttered those words, but I do know what those words always resulted in…a clean pair of glasses.
But it was more than that.
You see, that one little task reminded me that I could always count on my mom.
There was great significance in such an insignificant task.
Of course there became a time when I started doing it for myself, but for a season, mom always made sure I had clean glasses. And a tissue for my nose. And a hug to run into when I was upset. And a hand to hold when I crossed the street…
Those are the things that truly built our relationship.
You see, it’s the little moments that bond us with our children…it’s the tiny, insignificant, everyday, mundane things…that largely go unnoticed…that build strong relationships and trust.
Honestly, sometimes I struggle with those moments. My face is often buried in my phone or I’m too tired or I deem whatever the current issue is unworthy of my time.
But, I’m trying to get better.
I’m nervous those moments are eroding my kids’ trust in me.
And man, how I want my kids to trust me. I know that if they will trust me with the small things when they are 5, 6, 7, and 8…they are more likely to trust me with big stuff when they are 16, 17, 18…
It reminds me of a something Jesus said in one of his parables in Luke, chapter 16.
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much…”
I want my kids to trust me with much.
Now, I would be remiss if I didn’t point out that trust doesn’t mean that we are able to fix every problem and complete every task for our children. Far from it.
Instead, trust leads to a willingness to communicate…to ask questions…to share struggles and successes…to be vulnerable…to do life together…and I really, really want to do life with my children. Don’t you?
So, let’s vow to be on the lookout for the small opportunities to build trust with our children.
Let’s eliminate distractions and be present in the moment.
You know, I don’t remember my mom ever saying “I can’t clean your glasses right now…I’m texting.”
But I’ve done that. Well, something very similar…my kids don’t wear glasses…yet.
If they do wear them one day, though, I look foward to hearing…
“Daddy, will you clean my glasses?”
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