Dear overwhelmed dad:

I know you wear many different hats.

Dear overwhelmed dad:

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Husband,  father, son, brother, uncle, friend…

You’re a grounds keeper, a handyman, and a soccer coach.

You grill hot dogs at the school carnival and help with child care at church. (As long as there are no dirty diapers involved!)

You squash bugs and make monsters under the bed beg for mercy!

Somehow, you find time to play hide-and-go seek, super heroes, and dress-up. You build forts, train tracks, and doll-houses. You’re the king of Go Fish and a human merry-go-round…and you’re always accommodating when it comes to requests for “one more time!”

And then, you do what you do at work…and what feels like half of what someone else is supposed to be doing.

Most days you wake up tired and go to bed exhausted.

And despite that fact, you do everything in your power to make it seem as though you have it all under control even when you know you don’t.

I mean, you can’t admit it…that’s a sign of weakness, right?

I know you feel this way because sometimes I do too. I can’t really put my finger on it, but sometimes I think I need to do and be…more. I’m not sure what…just more.

If you ever feel that way, I want to tell you something.

You can’t do it all.

Even tough guys get tired.

Even dads need a break.

It’s okay if you don’t always have it all together and you feel overwhelmed. Seriously, you are not the only one. I mean, we all feel like there’s more to do than hours in the day sometimes.

I know you love being a father and that you never want to be confused with the stereotype of the uninterested, disengaged dad…but you don’t have to be Superman.

I know deep down you know this, but you’re doing an awesome job! Your kids are blessed to have you in their lives.

I mean, your kids don’t even want Superman…They just want you. Regular…ol’…you.

Sure, they deserve the best you.

I don’t know about you, though, but I can’t be the best dad for my children when I’m overwhelmed….when I’m too tired and cranky. I overreact to things that aren’t a big deal…which means I take my frustration out on them. (And my wife!)

I don’t like that guy, and when that happens, I know it’s time to take a break.

It’s okay to take a break.

I saw this tweet from Bob Goff, author of Love Does, recently: “Rest is holy. Go get some.”

So true!! Even our Heavenly Father rested! And that should remind us how important it is.

When you’re overwhelmed, call timeout. Talk to your wife about priorities. Let her know you are maxed out and determine together what gets done this week and what doesn’t.

I did this recently and realized that some of the things I had been extremely focused on were’t on my wife’s list of priorities at all. So, we agreed on some things to could pull back on.

Remember what’s important and don’t be afraid to cut some things out.

Don’t be afraid to let the grass grow for a week. Who cares what the neighbors think, anyway? Who do they think you are…Superman?!


P.S. Dear overwhelmed mom: Ditto for you!

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